Okay, I think I see some recurring themes to my blog and my journal. My poor husband has gotten the brunt of it, but you have too and for that I am sorry. I promise that after today I won't mention pregnancy until I have far better news to share.
You may remember a few months ago when I said if I wasn't pregnant come November that would be okay . . . "Because right now I have so much faith that I know that if I don't get pregnant in November (like I really, really want) than the Lord has an even better plan in store for me!!"
Well I'm not pregnant and after a lot of praying I've come to know that I'm just going to have to wait for beautiful babies. I've also come to realize that looking at this time as a "trial" is a big fat waste of time. Remember when I said I quit being sad about not being pregnant? Well I'm reiterating it. Blegh. That's what I say to trials and sadness.
So a little more background information. When I moved to Boston a few years ago I had my roommates make me up a little list of everything I needed to do in New England before I moved. Things like, visit Amish country, do the freedom trail, visit Montreal, etc. It was a great list and definitely made my time in Massachusetts vastly more enjoyable.
So that, dear friend, is what I'm asking for you to help me do now. I need to make a list of everything I want to accomplish before parenthood finally finds me. If you only worked part time and had no children to nurture what would you want to accomplish? What hobbies do you have that I can poach? There are no wrong answers. I might not train for that marathon like I know my brother-in-law would want to do, but go ahead and suggest it anyway. Anything and everything will be taken into consideration. Thanks everyone for supporting me in this. I really really do appreciate your prayers, love and concern.
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I think you have already been to Leavenworth, but it is really beautiful in the winter.
You need to go jet skiing on Lake Chelan. It is beautiful and clear blue.
Take the Victoria Clipper to Canada.
Go skiing or snowboarding at Steven's or Snoqualmie Pass. Sometimes they have cheap tickets at the grocery stores or if you get your gas at a Shell station, sometimes they have coupons that print out. And Gart Sports sometimes has cheap rentals if you need gear.
Go to Jackson Hole Wyoming. It is a drive, but it is really fun there.
Go snowshoeing. We picked it up last winter and we loved it.
You could also sleep in as much as possible because that will never happen again after parenthood begins.
Save up, get your passport, and fly somewhere cool with your husband. Like London or Mexico.
Go to Yellowstone, Yosemite, or any other of the National Parks.
How is that for some ideas? I'll keep praying for you, even if you don't ask again.
Christy
Hey Sar
I say travel, travel, travel!
We loved, loved Santorini and all of Greece. The sunsets are beautiful and so are the people.
I would love to go on a South African Safari. I think we are going to plan one as soon as Denver is old enough to leave at home.
We also loved Cozumel Mexico. We went scuba diving and had fun just sitting on the beach with our (virgin) strawberry daquiris. Most importantly just be together and do whatever you want to do together. I really wanted to go on a cruise this Christmas. There are so many good deals, but I am very full with child right now, so that ain't happening. The past year we have really tried to take in more of Utah. Just travel locally. There are so many beautiful places nearby. I heard about a couple that for the 12 days before Christmas they go on 12 fun dates. Whether they stayed in and did something or went out and did something they were together. Just enjoy the journey. I know it is hard to do. Every journey I have been on has its ups and downs. Singlehood, marriage, parenting and pregnancy for sure.
You don't have to be forgiven, because you feelings are only natural. I just want this to find you happy. Love ya always
Jen
P.S. Thanks for the gratitude note. You are so thoughtful and cute.
I think you should run a marathon. I haven't run a marathon since Aaron was born. It feels awesome to cross the finish line, and it leads to healthier living. Frankly, it's about the only thing I've given up; since I have all boys, they tag along with me in much of what I do.
You're trying to work part-time and save money to pay down your debts, so I think that takes away the option to travel to faraway lands (which I think is overrated, anyway). Do you have any interest in running for public office some day? Maybe you could start with something small and easy that no one else has an interest in (i.e., Water Conservation Board, or some other local, non-partisan position).
Do you have any artistic inclinations? Film, painting, music, photography, writing--just work on becoming an expert in that area that interests you.
Hmmm, good question.
Take some dance classes. You were great in your tap class, keep it going, even if it means being super brave and signing up for one with little kids.
Brush up your French. I bet there are people around who your can practice with-that could be a fun lunch group now that I think about it.
Work on Family History. I really wish I had more time to devote to this. I bet that between you and Matt you can come up with a line that needs to be worked on. If not, you can borrow one of mine!
Keep being your adorable, wonderful, supportive self!!! And while you're at it if you manage to receive any inspiration on what your friend Hilary should be working, that would be great too...
I see travel has already been covered. But I'm going to say it again...I realize (like in the previous comment) that you are trying to pay down student loans and such, but seriously, I am SO glad Adam and I got the chance to go on a fun trip together this past spring. Because as un-wealthy as we are now, we will be even less-so after I am not working regularly and have another person to take care of. So often now our travel involves going to visit family--as I'm sure yours does. But do something that you can remember, just the two of you!
Hi Sara!
Travel, Travel, Travel... this is what I would do and this is what I did in the same situation and now twins are due in June! Enjoy! Love, Becky
Thanks everyone so far. I get it travel, travel, travel. What about hobbies you all enjoy?
Sara, Here are a few things that were on my list when I was experiencing the same thing you are going through now:
- Start a book club
- Interview my parents and write their personal histories for posterity
- Write a book
- Attend a Hollywood premiere (okay...I live close to Hollywood so this may not work for you)
- Go back to school for my master's degree (not sure if you have done this yet)
- Travel
- Adopt a grandparent at a local nursing home
- Learn how to quilt (looks like you did that already)
- Learn how to smock clothing for my future children (I am learning this right now)
- Volunteer with a non-profit organization (I volunteered with RESOLVE - The National Infertility Org.)
Hope some of these sound interesting to you!
I miss spontaneous trips. It's possible, but difficult to be spontaneous with kids. Traveling to far away places is a blast, but expensive in time and money. America (and neighbors Canada and Mexico) are enormous enough to have plenty to choose from. Road trips. I miss those.
Reading good books. I haven't finished a book in about 6 or 8 months.
Music. For me, it's kind of killer to not be able to sing and play whenever I want because the little people just need a ton of sleep. When they're not sleeping, they're not about to let you alone.
Pick a favorite hobby (not one that you're necessarily "good" at) and attack it. Take after it for all that it's worth.
Best of luck.
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