Thursday, August 26, 2021

Birthday Girl



We celebrated Luca's 8th birthday yesterday. Present scavenger hunt followed by a yummy breakfast, then off to Wings and Waves for four hours of swimming fun. Luca LOVED playing with the modeling clay she got from Grandma Marler. I love that she wanted Crumble cookies for her birthday cake no matter how much Dude tried to convince her to get an ice cream cake.

Today we went to spend her birthday money on a Hobby Lobby shopping spree.

I love my special daughter. I love that she doesn't mind doing her own thing, is so tender-hearted, loves to give and share and LOVES her family. Truly her heart is her super power and I am in awe every day at how she uses it to serve. 

Sunday, August 22, 2021

How I Access the Priesthood Power of God

 I gave a talk in church today that I wanted to add here.

How I access the Priesthood Power of God


Brothers and Sisters, I can’t begin to describe what the last two weeks have meant to me as

I’ve pondered on what the Oath and the Covenant and really what the priesthood means to

me. It has been such a life-altering experience. I pray to have the Spirit with me so that I am

able to convey at least a part of what I have learned and felt. 


So with that, let me start by saying that the older I get the more the Gospel of Jesus Christ

boils down to this - saving ourselves and others by pointing everyone to our Savior Jesus

Christ and by becoming closer and more like Him. God achieves our salvation through the

Atonement of Jesus Christ and the Priesthood. The Atonement of Jesus Christ is what

sanctifies us. It is the power by which we cleanse our inner vessels. The priesthood is the

power God uses to partner with us to then help point others to Jesus Christ. So for me the

Atonement of Jesus Christ is the Christ’s love manifested inward and the Priesthood is

Christ’s love manifested outward. These two ideas for me have come through evolution of my

testimony throughout my life.


I remember growing up in the Church believing that the Atonement of Jesus Christ didn’t really

apply to me since I had no real sins for which I neither needed repentance nor forgiveness.

Through experience and study I realized that everything about that thought process was

completely wrong. 1. I make more mistakes than I’d care to admit. 2. Repentance includes but

is not limited to confessing and forsaking sins. 3. The Atonement of Jesus Christ is available

to be accessed for sins, weaknesses, heartaches, even help making and setting personal

goals or just getting through a day. It was such a paradigm shift for me to realize that Christ’s

Atoning sacrifice can help me organize my day, not hate running, or give me the grace to start

over time after time. That paradigm shift has truly changed my life.


My thinking of the priesthood has similarly evolved over time. As a youth I totally spaced any

time we talked about the priesthood. Doesn’t apply. Even into my adulthood not much about

my thinking changed. Any Relief Society lesson featuring the Priesthood seemed contrived to

make women feel better about everything they weren’t doing and aren’t the men so great for

their service? 


It wasn’t until just a few years ago when I was teaching the Doctrine and Covenants to my

seminary students and the young women in my class began asking questions for which I

didn’t then have answers. I began to understand that every woman who has ever been set

apart in a calling serves with priesthood authority - The power and authority that God gives to

man to act in all things necessary for the salvation of God’s children. Then one morning one of

the young women asked if mothers exercise priesthood authority in her home. I told her that I

wasn’t sure but given her temple covenants and her stewardship over her children I couldn’t

see why her priesthood authority as her calling of mother would be any different from her

calling in any other function within the church.


My thoughts were further broadened over the past few weeks as I’ve studied and pondered

what else I am missing. As I studied section 84 which includes the Oath and the Covenant of

the Priesthood, I have come to believe just as so many other General Officers of the Church

that we as women and men in the Church are living far below our privileges in relation to the

priesthood or the power and authority that God gives to man to act in all things necessary for

the salvation of God’s children.


In a gospel topics essay regarding Joseph Smith’s teaching on the priesthood, temples and

women, it says that “The priesthood authority exercised by Latter-day Saint women in the

temple and elsewhere remains largely unrecognized by people outside the Church and is

sometimes misunderstood or overlooked by those within. Latter-day Saints and others often

mistakenly equate priesthood with religious office and the men who hold it, which obscures

the broader Latter-day Saint concept of priesthood.”


In two recent General Conferences our beloved Prophet, President Nelson has urged

everyone but especially the women of the Church to study the priesthood and what it means

to them. 


“How I yearn for you to understand that the restoration of the priesthood is just as relevant to

you as a woman as it is to any man.


“Every woman and every man who makes covenants with God and keeps those covenants,

and who participates worthily in priesthood ordinances, has direct access to the power of God.

Those who are endowed in the house of the Lord receive a gift of God’s priesthood power by

virtue of their covenant, along with a gift of knowledge to know how to draw upon that power.


“The heavens are just as open to women who are endowed with God’s power flowing from

their priesthood covenants as they are to men who bear the priesthood. I pray that truth will

register upon each of your hearts because I believe it will change your life. Sisters, you have

the right to draw liberally upon the Savior’s power to help your family and others you love.”


Sister Eubank recently said that once she recognized she had that priesthood power in her life

her focus shifted to better questions. She began asking herself: ‘What am I doing with that

endowment of priesthood power? How does it affect my calling? What does it mean for my

most important relationships? And how might I use it to help someone else’”


These quotes along with many other powerful resources have really shifted my thoughts on

the Priesthood. Here’s another scripture:


Doctrine and Covenants 121:41-42: No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by

virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness,

and by love unfeigned; 

By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and

without guile.


Brothers and Sisters, we are partnering with Heavenly Father to save souls and we are to do

that by becoming more like Him. These verses include virtues that perfectly describe

Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. For me this means that as we mirror our hearts, minds,

and actions with those of God we are going to have more power, more influence to turn others

to Him.


But let’s step back for a moment. Take a moment to think about what partnering with God

looks like in your callings or in your family relationships. To me it makes me more bold, more

confident, and more compassionate than I would otherwise be, because I have faith that I’m

doing what Heavenly Father needs me to do. We might say we are being led by the Spirit,

which we are but another way of saying it is partnering with God and using the priesthood

power He has given us to bless the lives of others.


In the last 10 years or so we have been asked to rephrase things - instead of the Atonement

we are to refer to it as the Atonement of Jesus Christ or Christ’s Atoning sacrifice. Instead of

the LDS church or the Mormons we are to be the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Is this rebranding? Is this semantics? According to President Nelson it’s not. Using Christ’s

name adds power and redirects our thoughts to Him. So what if we did the same thing with

our priesthood power?


Instead of thinking of the priesthood merely as priesthood blessings, priesthood offices, and

priesthood ordinances, what if we consciously thought of our service, any service,as

partnering with God to point His children to Jesus Christ. Would we be more bold as we invite

our neighbor to an activity, as we compliment someone in the grocery store line, or as we

share a scripture with a friend? 


We are told time and time again that God is with us:

And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. I will be on your

right hand and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about

you to bear you up.


Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ are there ready to partner with us. They are pleading with

us to use our priesthood power that we receive in the waters of baptism through our

covenants as well as the additional power we obtain as we receive our endowment in the

temple to bless others. I truly believe that if we called our promptings to serve for what they

are, priesthood power, partnering with God to save souls it would revolutionize the way we

approach others. 


So I come back to Sister Eubank’s questions: “What am I doing with that endowment of

priesthood power? How does it affect my calling? What does it mean for my most important

relationships? And how might I use it to help someone else?” Or in other words how do we

use priesthood power more fully in our lives?


I have a few thoughts to help us in this journey to more fully utilizing our priesthood power.


First is humility. I feel that so much of the Doctrine and Covenants is about humility. Heavenly

Father and Jesus Christ are telling the early Saints to go and do some pretty amazing things

but they first need to recognize whose power they are using to accomplish it all.


Doctrine & Covenants 112:10 - Be thou humble, and the Lord thy God shall lead thee by the

hand, and give thee answer to thy prayers.


Let’s remember that the Lord wants and expects us to do amazing things, He wants us to use

the gift of priesthood power He has given us but if we don’t counsel with Him and let Him

show us the way, if we begin thinking that we are the amazing party in these transactions, “the

heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved; and when it is withdrawn,

amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man (or woman).


So let’s partner with God and be bold in what He asks us to do, but let us never forget who is

really doing the work that we get the amazing privilege to witness and take part.


Second is to cultivate that priesthood power. It takes work to mirror our hearts and minds and

actions with God. It’s why repenting daily, studying the scriptures daily, praying daily, partaking

of the sacrament weekly, and attending the temple regularly are so vital. They put us on the

path to employing the power of Christ’s Atonement in our lives so we can be in a position to

maintain the power and influence of the priesthood. 


Third is to expect to work, to get out of your comfort zone and to bless others. If we are

humble, if we are working to become more like our Savior, then the Lord is going to use us in

unexpected ways to bless others. 


I was listening to a podcast this week about the story of this man, Stacey whose job it was to

help others climb Denali, the highest mountain peak in North America. Stacey tells the story of

how he was helping his client, Denny, come back down the mountain when Denny fell into a

crevasse. Denny was almost literally twice the size of Stacey and after only a few hours was

succumbing to hypothermia. With Denny hanging by a rope, Stacey remembered he had

priesthood power that could call down the powers of heaven to help this man. He prayed, and

called on his CB radio one more time for help. Within 15 minutes both men were safely off the

mountain. As I was listening to the story and Stacey mentioned his priesthood power I

honestly thought he was going to give Denny a blessing. But when he said he had priesthood

power and prayed for help for his client I thought, well that priesthood power is available to

anyone, man or woman.


So we may not be called upon by God to use his power for such amazing feats at that. But we

will be asked to get out of our comfort zones and be bold. But if we remember that we are

partnering with God, and that this is His work, it hopefully somehow makes it easier.


Brothers and Sisters. I love this Church. I love the simplicity of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. And

I love that while I may never know why men are the ones called to serve as Bishop, bless and

pass the sacrament, or baptize my children, I am so grateful that the Lord trusts me enough to

want to partner with me, narcissistic as I sometimes can be, oblivious as I sometimes can be,

to help point His children to Jesus Christ. This thought may not change what I am doing but I

know it will change how I approach priesthood power and my access to it.

Saturday, August 21, 2021

Family Portland Adventure Day


 We had a family adventure to Portland today after we got the house cleaned. Mio Sushi for lunch, Moonstruck milkshakes for dessert and Powell's bookstore for fun. The kids LOVED it all, minus the driving. The milkshakes and Powell's were both firsts for them. Luca couldn't stop oohing and aahing over her shake wondering where it had been all her life. Dude couldn't quite grasp the anticipated size of the bookstore. We told him it was much bigger than the bookstore we normally go to in Salem (which is not small) to which he started asking if every sky scraper we walked past was it. Well, maybe not that big child. 

Even with having to adjust his expectations it still did not fail to disappoint. We told them both they could pick out any chapter book they wanted. Matthew and I ended up finding way more books for them than they found for themselves, but they finally made choices and now they are desperate to go back.

They were great sports and wonderful children. I am so proud of them, thankful I get to be their mama, and grateful they are old enough that we are able to introduce them to the fun stuff we enjoy and have them fall in love.

Friday, August 13, 2021

More Swim Camp


We had one week this August with nothing going on so Dude said yes to swim camp. Luca was dead set against it. She did not want to be there. Her swimming, according to her, is adequate enough that she didn't want to spend a week being told what to do. But with Matthew out of town on business all week she didn't get the choice to stay home. I made her put on her swimsuit just in case but she was determined that she would not be changing her mind.

She changed her mind. She sat on a chair by the pool and read her book for all of a minute before deciding that it was going to be the longest, dullest hour of her life all week long if she persisted. So, before camp even started she was signed up and ready to go. They loved it.

Dude was less than enthused about having to go back a level since it's been over a year since he's practiced, but he passed again and then was even less excited about having to spend the hour swimming back and forth. I think by the end of the week, he was grateful to have spent a good portion of his time in the fun class.

Luca now wants to take more lessons even if it means having to get back into the cold inside pool.

Thursday, August 12, 2021

New Project - Diamond Art


One of my Christmas presents this year was this 3.5' by 4.5' diamond art piece. It took me so long to complete - like months and months of my time dedicated to these sweet birds. Matthew is a go big or go home sort of guy with just about everything he does. He is currently working on a cross stitch piece that will be about 3' by 2'. So much time. After this, I have decided I am not a go big or go home person, at least not in my crafting. But man, those are some pretty birds.

Saturday, August 7, 2021

New Marler Cousins


This week, my sister-in-law Marie (Matthew's brother's wife) delivered twins. Because she is a champion and waited to deliver at 38 weeks, no one had to stay in the hospital longer than absolutely necessary; so we got the chance to see brand-new babies today. Luca was a little unsure holding this precious little one. She was much more comfortable entertaining their 2 year-old instead. We are so grateful that we live less than an hour away so we can see them so much more now than we did when they lived by the airport.

Hooray for new cousins!

Friday, August 6, 2021

15 Anniversary Weekend

 


After Megan and Collin left we quickly cleaned the house so Matthew and I could spend a few days of staycation while the kids were with my parents. We thoroughly enjoyed a few days together biking, hiking, not cooking for ourselves, and talking through life and our family. I am so thankful that this man is mine and that I am his for all eternity. I love that although neither of us look like the people we married, we still somehow like each other more now than we did when we were young, slim and had better hair.

Excerpt from Matthew's anniversary love letter: "You and the kids are the reason I keep trying hard to work, serve in the Church, and interact with most human beings. You bring out the best in me and I appreciate it."

Even after being with each other virtually every day all day for the last 18 months, I still love hanging out with him. We were talking recently that about once a year we have an argument that we wonder how we will make it through. It lasts for a few days and then somehow we miraculously figure it out. I think because we are each as committed to our marriage as we are to each other and because we practice copious amounts of forgiveness. So no matter how frustrated we get we keep pushing through until we get to the other side. 

I am grateful for him. I am grateful for his love, his dedication, his steadfastness, and his patience with me. I am thankful that over 15 years ago I listened to the Spirit when He told me that this was the man I was going to marry. I am thankful that we made that leap of faith together and have pushed through the hard times because marriage is so much more fun than I anticipated, even with the difficult.

"Even if it was the nine-hundred and ninety-ninth of July. Even if it was August. Even if it was way down at the bottom of November. Even if it was no place particular in January I would go on choosing you and you would go on choosing me over and over again. That's how it would happen every time. I don't know why." - I like You by Sandol Stoddard Warburg

I love you darling heart, even when it's no place particular in January.

Wednesday, August 4, 2021

Aunt Megan and Uncle Collin Come for a Visit

This past week, we had Matthew's sister Megan and her husband Collin come to visit. They spent most of Monday and Tuesday adventuring around Oregon but Wednesday they spent a lot of time with us or taking the kids shopping.

We haven't spent a lot of time with them since we moved from Pennsylvania so we were so excited to have them here. They were so kind and engaged with the kids, we had lovely conversations, and they were helpful and complimentary. 

Collin even made us all crepes one night as a special treat. We've tried introducing them to the kids before but they never took to them. But somehow with Uncle Collin making them they were a hit.

It was especially nice to see them with our children. Dude is an amazing boy but when it come to visitors he is almost never the favorite child, but with Collin he was. Collin patiently listened to all of Dude's stories about ghouls, monsters, etc and good naturedly teased Dude about all the things he is geeky about. They were a really cute, funny pair.

And because we were so thankful to have them come, even though it was crazy hot, we lit a fire so we could roast marshmallows. Thank you Megan and Collin for being such a fun addition to our summer adventure!